Coming Out of the Fog…

Just as bears instinctively know to hibernate, so do some of our human emotions. What are you talking about, you may be asking? And where the heck have you been?

To be completely honest, I’ve been in a state of emotional hibernation for several months now. I’m just now beginning to “come out of the fog.” I hadn’t even realized I was there until just recently. I have subconsciously distanced myself from so much of my life over the past few months. I’ve even lost touch with those I used to talk to quite often.

I started analyzing this a few weeks ago and realized that it’s a pattern I repeat yearly. In fact, I can pinpoint its beginning down to the week.

All this to say…I haven’t forgotten about any of you amazing peeps! I’ve enjoyed hearing from so many of you. Thank you so much!

Now, to explain what I mean by emotional hibernation…

About six years ago, I experienced a life changing event. For me, you could even say it was traumatic. We all have our own definitions of what this would be, but this event impacted my life in so many capacities. It’s something that I always think I’ve been able to move forward from, but somehow creeps up on me each fall.

I go into an “emotional hibernation” from late fall until early spring. I believe this is my subconscious trying to protect itself from further emotional harm. Think Pavlov’s theory with the ringing of the bell. Certain patterns in the year start to repeat and before I even know it we (me and my subconscious) are running to the cave at full speed to hibernate/wait it out.

Do you ever feel this way about things that have happened in your life? It’s as if no matter how much positive forward movement you’ve made, some things unknowingly creep up on you?

I will give a quick disclaimer to my status. I’m not, nor have I been, in depressive state during my “emotional hibernation,” so please do not worry in that sense.

What’s been so great about this particular “emotional hibernation” is that I was actually able to articulate what was happening. In fact, after I put some pieces together, I was having a conversation with a business acquaintance and told them not to allow me to talk to them from November to March next year. I told them they could even hold up a sign that said, “I’m sorry, I cannot speak with you until March.” Obviously this was all in good humor, but the point being, I had felt as if I had been only negative throughout any of our conversations the past few months. If nothing else, I’m an optimist who can find the silver lining.

Except…I hadn’t been that person recently. I had been like a puzzle that came with no picture to help know what it was supposed to turn out to be. I was indecisive and unsure of what the next forward steps needed to be.

But the fog is lifting, the hibernation has come to an end. New memories have been made, and I know more will be to come. My hope is that one day there will be so many wonderful memories that they will override the painful ones. It’s not that I want to forget, it’s that I know it’s not all there is.

I couldn’t be more thankful for my wonderful family and friends. They are just amazing!

If you’re in an “emotional hibernation,” or have been lately, know you’re not alone. This adulting thing is a rough ride, but oh how beautiful the journey is.

Whether you want to have a long conversation, or just a quick hello, send someone a quick message today to let them know they’re on your mind. We sometimes forget how much these little things mean until we’re on the receiving end. Be somebody’s person today…it’ll be a smile for both of you.

And most of all, just know that you got this! We got this!

“Sometimes surrender means giving up from trying to understand, and becoming comfortable with not knowing.” -Eckhart Tolle

All my best,

Amber

Are you FROZEN, or can you “Let it go?”

Oh the lyrics most of us have engrained in our minds…”Let it go, let it go.” If you’ve had a Frozen fan in your house within the past few years you’ve undoubtedly heard this one more than your fair share of times. If you haven’t had the chance to hear this one on repeat, just assume I’ve filled the void for you many times over 🙂

Why would I fill your inbox with Frozen memories you ask? Why would I bring it up?

First off, I thought it was quite a clever pun and I love a great pun!

Secondly, it goes perfect with what I’m grateful for.

Yes, I am grateful for the movie. I thought it had a great storyline and found it an exceptional movie to watch with my daughter, BUT that’s not what I’m choosing for Day 2 of my Gratitude Challenge.

I had the opportunity to go swimming yesterday evening. Technically I could’ve gone during the day, but then I would be typing disguised as a lobster. Fair skin and midday swims don’t go together all too well in my book.

Fun fact: Did you know lobsters aren’t actually red until they’re cooked? They’re actually shades of yellow, green, or even bright blue when found in the wild. I guess the lobsters and I have that in common…RED WHEN COOKED!

So…hence the reason it was evening.

Now, I was lucky enough to be outside of the city so there was very little light pollution when it got dark. And after swimming for a good bit I was pretty well beat so I decided to just free float on my back for a bit.

“In the end these things matter most:

How well did you love?

How fully did you live?

How deeply did you let go?”

-Buddha

Today I am grateful for the ability to let go. It’s definitely not the easiest thing for me to do, but it’s always well worth it. Last night I was able to float, weightlessly, and stare up at the stars. What a magnificent sight! It brought back memories of sleeping outside on the trampoline as a child.

It strikes me sometimes how we work so hard to create such big lives, but some of our fondest memories are from the simplest things in life.

The world is such a beautiful place when we stop and allow ourselves to let go of everything we are trying to do and really appreciate what is right in front of us.

What are you grateful for today?

Did you miss Day 1 of the Gratitude Challenge? Check it out HERE. Stop by MyQ2Life.com to catch up on a few other great reads.

You got this!

-Amber

P.S. When was the last time you stopped and consciously spent time appreciating the simple things? Did you do it purposely or was it accidental? What was it that impacted you the most?

Are you up for the challenge?

I just finished a round of 7 Days 7 Smiles with some phenomenal people. It was so much fun! I enjoy seeing what makes you guys smile so much. It’s amazing to see what makes people smile. We are all grateful for so many different things, large and small. And thanks to a sweet reply from Jessica, I was reminded of something I do with my students in their journals each day. (If you haven’t jumped over to do 7 Days 7 Smiles, I highly encourage you to do so. It’s completely free and so much fun!)

This got me thinking…

I ask my students to tell me three things they are grateful for each day. I also ask them to tell me one thing they are grateful for that is fleeting, something that could be gone in 10 days, 10 minutes, or 10 seconds. This last one really makes you take a second look around you.

While many of them are consistently grateful for family, food, and shelter, there are always those that surprise me and make me smile. Grateful for forgiveness. Grateful for mercy. Grateful for the bird who sings so sweetly. Grateful for the clouds and being able to find pictures in the sky.

We all get in such a rush with our busy lives. When asked for something we are grateful for we can usually think of some of the bigger, and more consistent, parts of our lives. BUT, thinking of some of the simpler, more fleeting parts of our lives is sometimes more difficult. This really requires us to “stop and smell the roses.”

And to know me well…is to know the following :

“Cake is happiness! If you know the way of the cake, you know the way of happiness! If you have a cake in front of you, you should not look any further for joy!”
― C. JoyBell C

I’m challenging myself to a week of sharing my gratitude for the simple things in life, 7 whole days. Will you join me? Add what you are grateful for in the comments below. Let’s have a week full of gratitude!

Today…

Today I am grateful for  technology, but not so much for work purposes today. Today I am grateful for technology to find out that sweet friends have returned safely home from travels in other parts of the world. I am grateful for the ability to see my dad smile by receiving a text from him with a picture of a beautiful butterfly first thing this morning. Technology has such a huge impact on what, and who, we are able to connect with.

“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.”
― Mark Twain

What are you grateful for today? Is it something big or something small? Add a comment below to share what you are grateful for today.

You got this!

Amber

P.S. If you haven’t been over to the 7 Days 7 Smiles page, check it out HERE.